Surviving the office party

Don’t come too early, don’t stay too late, don’t get drunk – and other keys to success at your workplace holiday gatherings

The holiday season arrives each year with countless traditions to keep up with, like shopping for gifts, decorating the house and baking treats, to name a few. Another tradition that many are familiar with, but may not anticipate as highly, is the office holiday party.

Throughout December and sometimes even into January, companies and organizations will host their annual holiday parties. These parties can often be tricky to navigate, as you are likely interacting with your coworkers – and boss – in an atypical setting. However, these parties also offer the opportunity for you to get to know your colleagues and their significant others in an informal way, which can ultimately be a benefit to your work relationships and the office culture.

Every office party has a different tone and atmosphere, but there are some good overall rules to keep in mind as you head out to the office party circuit. Here is a good Top 10 to take with you, whether it is your own workplace or you attend the party as a guest.

Be gracious. Remember that the company is using time and resources for employees’ benefit. Normally a lot of money, effort and planning go into making the party a success, and it is considered a gift to employees.

Celebrate in moderation. Stick to the two-drink limit to prevent unnecessary actions or comments. If driving, consider a designated driver or make other arrangements.

Be prompt. Arrive on time and leave on time. Arriving unusually late or leaving too early may be viewed as a lack of respect. Also, take care not to overstay your welcome.

Dress appropriately. Remember modest dress for you and your guest. Note any specific dress code from the invitation.

Speak inclusively. Remember to include spouses or guests when speaking to others, as they may feel uncomfortable initiating conversation. Try also to bring up topics that non-employees can discuss without feeling like outsiders.

Do not gossip. Refrain from any negative comments regarding the company or employees. A conversation held “in confidence” provides a breeding ground for gossip that may get spread to the wrong ears.

Use this opportunity wisely. Try to initiate dialogue with a coworker you may not communicate with on a daily basis. It is easy to “get in a comfort zone” and only speak to those you work closely with. Take this opportunity to learn something new about your colleagues that can foster a stronger working relationship in the future.

Keep it professional. Consider the party as an extension of the office. Avoid overly controversial or personal conversation topics, and encourage mature behavior with your own actions.

Be positive. Refrain from any negative comments regarding the wait staff, food, atmosphere, etc. You never know how a comment will be interpreted or potentially repeated to the wrong person.

Be appreciative. Thank the appropriate people when leaving, including anyone involved in the party planning. If appropriate, send a thank-you note to the person or people responsible for the party.

Despite the stress that this time of year tends to generate, try to remember to enjoy each party and appreciate its purpose: an occasion to gather together, celebrate the year’s accomplishments and look toward a promising new year.